Are your kids growing up too quickly? Welcome to the club. In the 21st century, a lot of kids seem to feel that they need to grow up fast due to unrealistic parental and peer expectations. Do you set the bar too high in your family? In the interest of everyone coping well and feeling satisfied, I'm pleased to present the following parenting tips that may help to ease the weight foisted upon modern young shoulders.
What is good parenting?
Laurence Steinberg, Ph.D. is a respected psychology professor at Temple University in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania. Steinberg suggests parents ask themselves what are their parenting goals? Does a parent need to “be the boss” at all times, or do they have a more casual approach to family hierarchy? Are kids’ opinions considered? Helping a child develop at their own pace ought to be the goal of every responsible mother and father.
Experts say
"Parenting is one of the most researched areas in the entire field of social science. The scientific evidence for the principles is very, very consistent.”
Dr. Steinberg explains that good parenting fosters honesty, self-reliance, kindness and cooperation. Additionally, good parenting boosts intellectual curiosity in kids and helps to protect them from developing self-destructive and antisocial behaviors, says WebMD. Remember that everything your child sees you do, they may emulate. They may mirror your moods and repeat your actions. Consider this and set a gentle, kind example that produces happy, healthy kids who grow up to be happy, well-adjusted adults.
Problems with modern parenting
Every family is different, of course, but there are a number of parenting problems that tend to be universal in these modern times. For instance, tt’s not unusual for kids to feel their parents don’t listen to them, especially during the teenage years. Parents who are afraid to listen to their kids or who don’t treat their children as “real people” with their own lives do a disservice to their progeny. Parents who set a too-high bar and expect too much from their kids aren’t doing them any favors, either, say parenting gurus at Huffington Post. Toddlers don’t generally clean their own rooms and three-year-olds are not likely to happily share their toys at all times. This is okay. Understand that your little ones (and teens, too) are complete people with their own needs and wishes. Parents who are under severe financial pressure may not be the most patient people. If a small loan to pay down bills would ease family tensions, look into it. Speak openly with teens about family finances, and check this site out when you have a chance.
Don’t be afraid to set boundaries with your kids. Sometimes, the right answer is “no” when a child asks for something unrealistic. In the long run, your kids may respect you more when they know they can’t get every single thing they want when they want it. Keep a positive attitude and remember to shut off phones and devices and spend time actually talking to one another.
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