(Book) How to Discipline Kids without Losing their Love and Respect: Review

Disclosure: I got this product as part of an advertorial.

You may remember me writing about how I've had some difficulty with my 3 year old, trying to figure out how to discipline him without spanking him while still getting him to listen to me.  Well, this book by Jim Fay teaches about the Love and Logic method of discipline - a way of connecting with your children and teaching them to understand what you are saying without screaming at them.

Respect is a two-way street, and you have to show a certain amount of it to your children if you want to receive it.  Love, that one is self-explanatory.  You love your children, so why not incorporate that love into a mutual understanding that can make everyone happy.

There are two rules to Love and Logic.  The first is for adults to take good care of themselves by setting limits without anger, lectures, threats, or repeated warnings.  The second is when a child causes a problem, the adult hands it back in loving ways.  So what does that mean?  Hold your child accountable for his or her actions, but show them what you would rather they do without nagging them.

Seems almost impossible, right?  That's why I like this book.  It gives you detailed scenarios of how to rephrase your intentions - from "fighting words" to "thinking words", or enforceable statements.  My favorite example here was to change the phrase, "Don't talk to me in that tone of voice!" to "I'll listen as soon as your voice is as calm as mine."  Can you see what a difference that can make?

I'm so excited to have this book; I plan on using the tips and examples to see what a difference it can make with my parenting.

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